Layers

I had an epiphany I would like to share with you today.  I have spent decades working through all the different layers of built up emotional issues. Here is a much abbreviated version of what I have learned:

When you start working on yourself you are most likely still in the victim mode…  Why me? Why does this always happen to me?  What did I do to deserve this?  Etc.

During the next phase you begin taking responsibility for what has happened, for all the perceived wrongs you experienced.  You look for how you contributed to the issue(s).  Why you made the choices you made and what you got out of them.  You start learning to forgive and that forgiveness is all about freeing yourself, letting go of all the negative emotions that are tying you down, thus freeing your energy and thus increasing your energy flow.  It is not about saying that it was ok, but saying that you are ok with letting it go.

The next phase is all about you (and this was my big epiphany).  It is about realizing the abuse you have inflicted on yourself over the years.  Hiding behind addictions (food, TV, shopping, alcohol, sex, drugs, fill in the blank), abusing your body because you were unable and/or unwilling to look at what was happening.  It is about learning to love and respect all of you:  your body, your mind, your emotions, your soul.  It is time to learn how to be kind to yourself, how to be gentle with yourself, how to take care of yourself.  Feel your light and be the light.