Whole

Friendships come and go. It is not always clear what moves and shakes human interactions. While we can philosophize and talk about how we are mirrors for each other and how we need each other, when an end draws near, the parting is seldom peaceful.

However, instead of getting lost in the sensations and emotions, which will guarantee a painful break, the one thing that will help you part peacefully or maybe even make amends, is to go inward and ask yourself:

Why are you in this friendship?
What makes you hold on to it?
What are you afraid to loose?
Then ask:
Are you being true to yourself,
are you honoring yourself,
are you being all that you can be?
Are you reliving/recreating a lesson to be learned?
Where are your boundaries and your limits (you need to take care of you first and foremost)?
What serves you in this relationship and what doesn't?

It helps to take an overall look, not just focus on the current tangled, emotional state. Look at the whole friendship history. Answering these questions will give you clarity and peace in the end. You will know where you stand, how you can support yourself and how to proceed. In any relationship, you can only be the best you are and by being your best you are giving others the opportunity to shine their light too. Whether they choose to shine their light with you or not is not up to you, but you will find that you can be whole with AND without their light.