As your children become adults, somewhere along the way you become aware that it is not your responsibility anymore to fix their problems. They choose challenges they need to further their growth. However that doesn't mean that you can't do anything for them. Quite the contrary!
Rather than working on fixing things for them or telling them how to fix it, they will benefit more from experiencing/knowing that you love them unconditionally, that you do not judge them, that you have compassion for them. Create a virtual safe space they can enter whenever they want to and whenever they need it. Leave your problems out of that space. It is not about you, but about them.
Be there when they need you. Listen to them, truly listen. Often that is all that is needed. Add encouragement and/or reassurance as needed. Shut off your judgement. Refrain from taking the reigns. It is disempowering to your child. And just love them. Love the child within them. Love their pureness and innocence, their essence. Thus you will help them find their way back to themselves. Be the mirror they need in their time of need.
We all need a safe haven and parents have the privilege to be able to give that to their child/children. Doing all this takes time, perseverance and practice. As always too, practice makes perfect and you are giving yourself and your child the best gift ever.
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