Affirmations

Affirmations are an important and effective tool to shift emotional imbalances.  To create good affirmations for yourself, you need to become very clear as to

1. what the root of the imbalance is
2. what role you play in this imbalance, what is your part in it
3. what are you gaining from it and if you are willing to let it go
4. which vibrational state do you want to be in ideally as relating to this imbalance.

So how do you do this?  Well, there are several ways:

1. Do it yourself - this is absolutely possible.  I have done it myself for decades and have been successful.  The downside is that it does take decades!
2. Talk to a close friend and see what they hear.  Outside perspective is a good thing.  People that listen to you can be of great value if they are able to feed back to you what they hear without judgement and personal involvement (i.e. them mixing their feelings and insecurities into your situation).
2. Hire a coach.  One of the requirements for my coaching certification was that I needed to be coached first before I coached others.  I can admit now that I thought: 'I don't need a coach.  Nobody will be as critical and analytical as I am of myself'.  I was wrong.  Having a coach was one of the best things that ever happened to me.  It was a big, eye-opening experience in that you learn so much in such a short period of time.  It is truly a great way step into high gear when it came to personal development.  Coaches are great listeners and their gift to you is the creation of a loving, non-judgmental space that you can blossom in. 

When you are dealing with your own challenges, it is like you are in your own forest and can't see the trees in front of you.  The coach helps you find the tree you are looking for.  :)