There are so many times, when you feel insecure, that you think you know what other people are thinking about you. Your imagination takes on a life of its own and all kinds of scenarios, thoughts, and judgments, that seem completely real, come to life.
The truth is though, you won't know what others think unless you ask them point blank. The key there too is, when you do ask, to listen to what they say WITHOUT your internal judge going off. Invariably you will pick out the things your judge is expecting, but more importantly listen to everything else that is being said too, as well as the context of what is being said. You might be surprised and more likely than not hear things you might not have expected.
Also, always know that what you are hearing is a personal interpretation of someone else, an interpretation of how your life affects and touches the other person. Listen to the part that applies to you. Accept the "good" and the "bad" with open ears and an open heart. Be thankful for the feedback. It is not always easy to deliver your "unfiltered truth". The person delivering their truth is also taking a chance and being vulnerable in their own way.
And, again, ask for clarification, as many times as it takes, to understand what is going on. It may not be what you are used to, but it may save you many hours, weeks, etc. of needless and fruitless pondering and ultimately the creating of fictitious worlds.
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