Have you ever shared one thing, i.e. a personal experience, with two people at the same time, to later find out, that even though they both heard the same words coming out of your mouth, they each heard a different story? How does this happen?
Each person has a different set of experiences, biases, problems, solutions, ways of viewing himself and the world, etc.. These 'filters' skew your everyday life which leads to such situations.
When someone reacts strongly to something you say to him, it means that something deep inside of that person has been triggered. Some aspect of his personal self that he most likely is ignoring and/or refusing to look at was mirrored to him in what you were saying.
This is especially true when the reaction is out of proportion with the content of what was said. When you are faced with emotional outbursts of that sort it is not always easy to keep a level head. The growth opportunity is to do exactly that though, to truly understand that it is not about you, but that that person is having an internal wake-up call, letting them know that they are not looking at something, that something is out of balance within them.
Keep in mind that this is a two way street...so whenever you get angry, the same applies to you. The minute you do look inside and figure out why you are reacting, I can guarantee that you will instantly stop being angry. The anger stops as soon as you identify what it is that you are not looking at. It stops as soon as you shine the light on the dark spot that is hiding.
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