Have you ever experienced trying to help someone, without avail? Though you may mean well, jumping in and helping someone is not always the best thing to do.
Here are some general guidelines I have learned to follow prior to trying to rescue everyone in need that might be of use to you too:
1. Does the person want to be helped? During the CPR certification I took last month we were taught that before you help anyone you need to ask them first if they want to be helped. That fully applies to all situations, not just to physical ailments.
2. Is the person open/willing to change? Don't assume that because a person is "miserable" that they want to change. People are often invested in their misery and they do get something out of creating these types of situations (e.g. sympathy and compassion).
3. Be sure you are doing it for the right reasons too. Saving someone else may make you feel good, like you are needed and useful, but it gives you a skewed view of the situation and will make you less effective in being able to truly help. It is best to be in a place of complete unconditional love to help others. :)
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